If you’ve read self-help books, you might have encountered another meaning of emotion, which is energy in motion. This is a very good description as it tells us more about emotion than just it being an affective aspect of consciousness.
It tells us that emotion is energy, which is true. Even in one’s speech, whether written or verbal, the emotional choice of words and intonation give words life and much more meaning. In one’s way of doing things, putting emotion to the efforts exerted adds an effect to the results. When you love your work, there is more detail, refinement, and care put into it. When you hate your work, the shabiness is reflected as well.
It also tells us that emotion is energy, that is moving. Emotions are not emotions if they are not expressed, whether internally or externally. Even if no one notices you being sad, the fact that the energy of sadness is whirling inside you still makes it valid as an emotion, since the emotion of sadness is being expressed internally.
Expression is a form of movement. Translation is a form of movement. When you express an emotion, you are moving energy (whether conscious or not) from the subconscious to the conscious. For example, when you feel happy, you only become aware of the happiness you feel once it is expressed inside you. Then you make the decision whether you let your actions be influenced by your current state of happiness.
When you translate an emotion, you are moving energy (whether conscious or not) from one aspect of yourself to another. In the case of feeling happy, by letting your actions be influenced by your current state of happiness, you are moving the energy from inside you to the efforts you are directing your actions into.
Binge eating and retail therapy
We all know (or we should all know) that binge eating and retail therapy are forms of mechanism to relieve stress. Emotions that bring about stress are some of the following:
The emotions indicated above may have been experienced at work, at home, or in a social situation.
Going back to the definition of emotion as energy in motion, binge eating and retail therapy are the translated forms of energy from the subconscious, to the conscious, and further translated into actions.
And some masturbate to relieve stress. But we’re only mentioning that to catch you off guard.
Anyhow, the main point is – emotion is an energy that we bring about from our subconscious into our conscious and further into their physical manifestations through our actions.
What’s it got to do with our finances?
Money and finance - these may seem algorithmical and mathematical in nature but they are not. At least not entirely. In fact money is a very emotional subject. We only need to think about payday checks to confirm that money is an emotional subject.
Don’t you feel happy during payday? Don’t you feel excited about the investments you’ll be putting your paycheck into? Don’t you feel jubilant about the stuffs you’re planning to buy with your payday money? Well, if you’re not at all excited or happy, you may be feeling gloomy because of the bills needing to be paid that are waiting for your paycheck, like gangsters waiting for you to pay your protection money.
See? Money is an emotional thing.
Now here’s the problem: when our money and our emotions are not aligned properly, or not consciously monitored – we have a tendency to expend our energy to relieve our stress and with it, expending our money…carelessly.
Sometimes, the expenditure of energy may not even be stress-related.
When people go out on a binge, they spend money. They spend money so they can binge on food or other consumable items that they don’t really need. It’s a waste of money. But those who binge don’t think about the money since they are more focused on relieving their stress.
When people go out for retail therapy, they spend money. They spend money so they can feel good about themselves. They feel happy about the clothes, the watches, the gadgets – stuffs that are mostly unnecessary. But who thinks about what’s necessary or not when the main focus is to relieve stress?
And then they feel bad about losing money later on when they’re sober.
But there’s another thing we need to be aware of. Sometimes, there’s a tendency for us to spend on things just because we want to feel good about ourselves. We want to be proud of ourselves. We want to be happy. It doesn’t have to involve anything stressful which makes it a sleazy trap we get ourselves into without us being aware.
Some of us wanna look swag. Some of us wanna share pics on facebook, twitter, or tumbler with ourselves looking cool with expensive clothes, gadgets, or cars. Or it can be a picture of us eating at a posh restaurant. And don’t forget the Starbucks photo shoot! With the focus on the logo and the latte!
These things don’t really matter as long as we don’t go overboard with out budget. But that’s the thing! Most of those who are fond of doing these stuffs are those who are struggling to make ends meet!
Actually, it’s the reason why a lot of us are not wealthy since looking wealthy has become more important that actually being wealthy. Those two don’t mean the same thing!
Yet we let the emotion of pride and lack of self-esteem ruin our budgets by focusing our efforts and funds into creating this facade of ourselves to make us ‘feel accepted’ by our peers.
Thus, every time we find ourselves making a financial decision (you know, WHEN SPENDING MONEY OVER SOMETHING), it’s of utmost importance to ask ourselves:
- Will this make me wealthy or will it increase my swag points? If it’s for swag points, forget it! Well, unless if the swag points guarantee you more money in your bank account!
- Am I doing this to relieve stress? If so, find something else to do to relieve stress that doesn’t require money!
- Do I even know why I’m spending this money, or is it because everybody’s going crazy over this new trend? When you find yourself wanting to buy something so you could fit in with your peers, you’re most likely making a wrong financial decision.
Financial decisions should be objective and should always…always be in the form of ROI, return-on-investment. Meaning, it should be focused on making you wealthier.
If ever your financial decisions are fueled by your emotions, at least make sure it would lead to your wealth. Otherwise, forget it.
It doesn’t hurt to be a happy investor, excited to deposit a percentage of his or her paycheck into investments that would pay big time in the long-run!